9.03.2009

scallywag

Beckham has had a rough 3 weeks. He hasn't been napping, and has been falling asleep at bed time in the hallway or on the stairs. He cries and screams toddler-esque obscenities every time he is buckled in his car seat. He blatantly disregards instructions and requests. He is hitting, spitting, and saying "stupid" like it is his job. While our parenting style hasn't changed in the last three weeks, the only reason for his change in behavior, that I can think of, is how incredibly lonely he must be feeling right now without his big brother who is now in school. You need to understand that Beckham really is a sweet and happy boy. Granted, he has always been a little squirt, but he is usually such a good kid with a lot of spirit. I can only imagine how sad he must feel that his best friend and playmate is out of his world most of the day. Ty's friends have naturally been Beckham friends, and his friends are in school as well. What Ty does is what Beckham wants to do.

I am so, so sad for him and am at somewhat of a loss. Any ideas for me? Need help. I just want my happy Beckham back.

5 comments:

janet said...

I totally agree with you on the reason why he's struggling. poor thing-- and poor mom!

I have a pretty strong opinion about this, and it's definitely not a solution for everyone. But one of the HUGE benefits about homeschooling is that your kids get to be together all day. Some kids NEED to be apart for everyone to stay sane, but my boys would be devastated.

Anyway, good luck to you. If things don't change, make Ty's away time be very special for Beck.. do activities just for him at home-- art projects, etc. and love on him until he adapts.

mothering ain't for wimps, I'm telling ya.

Brad and Marci said...

I am going to have to agree 100% with your conclusion. Kali has taken another approach to her sadness with Cole's loss and that is peeing and pooing in her underwear. It's not all of the time but it sure came out of nowhere and that is all I can come up with because it started on Wednesday but I DO NOT LIKE IT! So any suggestions for me as well would be great.

Papa said...

Anj - are you sure he didn't pick this all up from being around me at the cabin? :) Actually, I think that this is a great time for you and Beckham to bond. I recommend throwing the baseball with him and other things that he likes to do, along with a couple of trips to Brewster's Ice Cream Store. This is destined to become a special time for you both! Please tell him that Papa loves him!

ads said...

I don't know if something like this would work Anj, but first thing in the mornings, you could ask Beckham what special thing he would like to do during the day - then give him an incentive by telling him that if he responds in appropriate ways and listens and obeys, then you will do that special thing with him. Also, since he seems to be especially challenging right now, look for any, tiny little thing he does right and compliment him and play up the good things he does. Hang in there - you are an awesome mom !

Karrie said...

i know, have another one!:)

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